Does this comment sound familiar?

When we feel like this, it’s time to take a rain check because if you’re asking yourself this question, you have something inside you that you want to share.

Almost all coaches, course creators, and entrepreneurs, suffer from this malady at one stage in their career or another, and I am no different. 

For the best part of 30 years, I have wanted to help young adults with troubled backgrounds, to free themselves of limiting beliefs and build businesses that could support them, but I could never see how. Without a psychology degree, it seemed impossible and when I tried a counselling programme, I almost lost the will to live. It wasn’t what I was looking for, and it didn’t carry the positive language I wanted to use. 

Historically, enhancing people’s lives has always been enjoyable to me, but as an osteopath there are limitation around how I could do that. My life as a full-time osteopath was a joy, but the pandemic created change no one expected, and an injury put pay to full-time practice. But the desire never went away. 

One day, I saw a post from a very dear osteopathic mentor of mine, Phyllis, who was training in NLP, and not long after, I went to an event that shifted my entire perspective of how to achieve my goal.  I was hooked, and I had finally found a way to help my community in a much broader way. 

As I began studying with Robbins-Madanes Training, (owned by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes), I saw my dreams becoming a reality. I could finally combine 30 years of osteopathic knowledge with a new communication tool to help people move forward in life when their emotions get in the way. 

But… 
It wasn’t always easy. 

I had thoughts just like this. I didn’t always act as quickly as I should, but my desire to help others pushed me forward. 

As I trained, I realised that when humans have a compelling reason to act, they will. But, the pain to move forward must be less than the pain of staying where they are. 

Let me give you a common example: 

Cindy’s life is ticking along. She’s not happy in her job, but she’s okay and the money isn’t awful, so she does nothing to change the situation. She has contemplated starting a new life, but she has no clue how to market herself as a coach, so she decides it’s easier to stay where she is. 

Days rolls into months, roll into years. 

One day, Cindy becomes unwell. She isn’t sure if it’s just a bug she picked up on a plane or something else. After about a month of feeling under the weather, she goes to her doctor, who runs some tests. The doctor diagnoses Cindy with a rare neurological condition. It’s not good and its rarity means they don’t have all the answers. 

Cindy returns home, shell-shocked. 

To cut a long story short, Cindy’s body has had enough. For almost a decade, she has carried around negative thoughts about her life, work and existence and now she’s seriously unwell. 

Flooded with anger, fear and sadness, Cindy starts to think carefully about what to do next. 

After a few days, she realises she must change her job if she is to stand any chance of fighting the disease. 

When a decision moves from a should to a must, we take action; even if it’s painful. Why? Because the fear of moving forward is less than the fear of staying where you are. 

That’s why I said that if you feel uneasy about your lack of action, it’s a good thing. Your inner compass is trying to tell you there is a better way.

You should listen to that. 

Dustie 

(RMT Life Coach, Osteopath & Creative Brand Strategist)