Reflection Exercise: What’s Your Relationship with Change?

A simple 3-minute exploration inspired by yesterday’s blog.

This morning, take a few minutes to go through this exercise. Sit quietly, with a pad and pen, and see what comes up. Don’t ask other people, do it for yourself.

Step 1 — Your Immediate Reaction to Change

Answer instinctively — don’t overthink it.

When you hear the word “change”, which sensation feels truer for you?

A: A tightening in the chest, a need to prepare, plan, or steady yourself.
B: A spark of curiosity, a sense of possibility, or the urge to explore what’s next.

Write down A or B.

Step 2 — Your Lived Experience Check-In

Choose the statement in each pair that best reflects how you tend to navigate life:

A: I feel safest when life is predictable.
B: I feel most alive when things evolve or shift.
A: I prefer to understand the “rules” before I take action.
B: I’m comfortable experimenting and adjusting as I go.
A: Unexpected events often make me anxious.
B: Unexpected events often energise me.
A: I tend to think through consequences before stepping forward.
B: I tend to trust that I’ll figure things out along the way.
A: Stability helps me breathe.
B: Variety helps me breathe.

Tally your A’s and B’s.

Step 3 — What Your Answers Suggest

Mostly A’s:
You likely have a certainty-anchored orientation. You may have grown up in environments where predictability kept you emotionally safe. Change can feel like a threat to that safety.
This doesn’t make you weak — it means you’ve learned to protect yourself.
Mostly B’s:
You lean toward a variety- or adventure-oriented orientation. You may associate change with possibility instead of danger.
You thrive in motion.
A mix:
You’re a contextual navigator. You can anchor yourself when needed and adapt when it counts.
This balance is a strength.

Step 4 — A Gentle Self-Inquiry

Based on your leaning, choose one of these questions and answer honestly in a sentence or two:

If you lean toward certainty:
Where might one small dose of uncertainty actually give you more freedom or growth?

If you lean toward adventure:
Where might a touch of structure support you in turning excitement into tangible progress?

If you’re balanced:
How do you know when it’s time to anchor — or time to leap?

Ready to Understand Your Relationship with Change?

If you’re not sure whether you lean toward certainty or adventure — or you feel tugged between the two — you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Sometimes a fresh perspective is all it takes to turn confusion into clarity.

Book a Clarity Life Session

In this focused 1:1 conversation, we’ll explore:

what drives your reactions to change
where your patterns come from
how to work with your natural tendencies rather than against them
and how to navigate your next steps with confidence

A small shift in understanding can open the door to big, meaningful change.

If you’re ready to see yourself more clearly — your Life Clarity Session awaits.