Sunday 29th March 2026

I made this post for every woman who’s shrunk her magic to suit those around her. Because I’ve done this for large chunks of my life and today it’s a huge regret.

My mother used to tell me that as a little girl, I was vibrant, fun, always laughing.

She loved days out with me because I would find the good in everything, giggling, and loving life. I had unbelievable “luck”. Forever winning prizes and finding pennies, and I touched people in ways she didn’t understand.

But then, a new chapter began.

I began to lose my sparkle because I was told that to succeed I needed to be like this, and like that (none of which was built for a young woman with a twinkle in her eye).

So, I squashed myself into a box.

I conformed as much as I knew how (which wasn’t successfully)

I did what everyone told me I was supposed to do, and something interesting happened.

My life got smaller.

I went from being a highly successful young woman with the world at my fingertips, to a horizontal line ⎯

Where I once won at life, everything felt harder.

Where I once felt inspired, I lowered my head.

I started hiding, because I never fitted in.

And I didn’t resonate with those around me.

Put another way, I didn’t get this life of greyness where everything felt like an uphill struggle…

I had reduced myself to being “just like everyone else”.

I didn’t shine. And I didn’t smile.

And most importantly, I lost the essence of who I was.

Roll forward a few monumental life errors later and a some very hard conversations, and this is where I am. Refinding that girl inside.

The girl who loved to dance under the sun.

The girl who always thought big.

The girl who had a vision for a much larger life, where miracles happened and projects got built to make life on earth a little better for those in need.

That little girl has been hidden for far too long. And it’s time she came out.

My message to you is this:

Please don’t crush the light inside you.

Please don’t crush who you are.

Because that light is your guiding star.

And we should learn to listen to it

If you know what I’m talking about and want to walk the next chapter with me, let me know.

With love x